陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作。他下班后跟美国同事Amy一起去参加应酬。

(Office ambience)

C：谢谢你陪我来，Amy, 每次公司有这种应酬，我都特别不自在。

A：Why not? They are usually upscale eventsheld in attractive places with good food.

C：吃的倒是不错，可我不习惯跟陌生人接触。

A：That’s one of the reasons we go, to meetother business people and build productiverelationships.

C：那除了多认识人，还有其他原因吗?

A：Yes, reconnecting with people to maintain professional contacts.

C：遇到熟人还好，不过我最怕的就是跟陌生人打交道，老觉得特尴尬。

A：We talked a while back about being prepared, finding out about the people who will be atthe event and planning what you will talk about.

C：我每次都准备得挺好，可一到现场，就不知所措了。怎样做才能不让人觉得鲁莽呢?

A：To be courteous, you need to know which people are approachable and which ones arenot.

C：我怎么知道什么人愿意理睬我呢?

A：Let’s find a quiet spot where I can give you a few tips.

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陈豪和Amy走到一个人少得地方。

C：Any, 你快告诉我，什么样的人我可以主动走过去搭讪呢?

A：The most approachable ones are standing alone. They are probably looking for someoneto talk to.

C：如果他们不想说话呢?

A：There are signals you can use to see if the person standing alone is friendly or not.

C：你是说肢体语言吗?

A：That’s right. Look the other person in the eye as you approach. If he looks away orignores you, that’s a clear message that he is not interested in meeting you.

C：如果他避开我的目光，就是没兴趣。那你刚才说的微笑呢?

A：After you have made eye contact, smile at the person. If he returns your smile, you havea non-verbal invitation to approach.

C：如果从对方的肢体语言能看出，他不愿跟别人交谈呢?

A：Move on and look for someone else.

C：那如果大家都在交谈，我就只好能别人来找我了?

A：That would be a waste of time. Look for a group of three or more people and try thesame tactic.

C：那我是不是要立刻进行自我介绍?

A：Walk up to the group, stand slightly back, make eye contact with each one and smile. Asoon as they acknowledge you, introduce yourself.

C：如果他们对我不理不睬呢?

A：Same as before. Keep moving until you find welcoming people.

C：那 是不是只有有两个人在交谈，应该更容易加入吧?

A：Absolutely not. Those are the people you want to avoid.